In December

And a meditation on finding balance.

It’s December. The darkest day of the year is approaching. Traditionally, and in much of nature, this month has been centered around resting, nesting, and squirreling away necessities to sustain life through the dark of winter. It’s ironic then, that December has become all about community and celebration and involves a general outflow of energy.

We have an instinct to rest, but also a call to socialize and busy ourselves with end-of-year parties, celebrations, recitals, concerts, traditions, and work projects. There are gifts to buy perhaps, traditional foods to make, or travel plans, decorations to hang. The list is long.

Photo by Filip Bunkens

Somehow, we hope to find a balance.

It really helps to double down on taking care of yourself. Getting plenty of sleep, exercising, eating well, and having downtime, for example, all become extra important with this increased energetic output.

Consider what you can let go of. Maybe a smaller tree this year, or *gasp* - none at all. Maybe we spread out the celebration over time, instead of centering it all on one tenuous day.

Also, this might sound counterintuitive, but consider what traditions are most important and, if possible, think about doing more of that. Don’t go through the motions. Cherish the tradition. It just may be what fills you up.

Finding balance is no easy feat. Some things are beyond our control. There will likely be cancellations, illnesses, travel delays, lack of resources, and so on. And we may be separated from loved ones for a number of reasons.

One technique I have found helpful is consciously taking the time to manage effort and ease. Just as you would manage your calendar, manage your energy. Do you find social events or crowds draining but attend them anyway? If so, schedule some downtime the next day, or plan to spend time doing something you love afterward. Always give yourself something to look forward to, even if it is something simple. It’s all about balance.

Especially on busy days, whenever I think of it, or if I find myself feeling out of sorts, I check in with myself by taking a moment and inviting more ease, kindness, and softness. If you are overthinking, overextending, straining, and feeling tense, notice if there is a place in your body where you feel tension the most. Lots of people feel it in their necks and shoulders. So, take a big exhale, and as you do, soften your shoulders, and try to release any holding.

I invite you to listen to me explain more in the meditation audio recording below.